Pregnant?


PREGNANT?

If you’ve found yourself in a situation where you are pregnant, you’ve got 9 months to figure it out. Running away because you are pregnant is NOT a sane idea. You will need care for the baby. Note, I did not say YOUR baby. It is the baby. Being a parent is a full time job. If you are selfish enough to get pregnant and want to live your life, aka run away, you shouldn’t be a parent. There are lots of people in the world who can’t have kids. Just because a sperm connected with an egg in your vagina, doesn’t mean you are lucky, special, or even ready to be a parent. You are going to have enough trouble taking care of yourself.

My daycare bill is $1,000 per MONTH. Just for one kid. Can you afford that? Probably not and that DOESN’T include diapers, food, clothes, doctor’s visits, and all the other expensive things that come with having a kid. If you think the baby’s daddy will be there for you...where is he now? Is there a ring on your finger? Did he respect you enough to wait until you were in a committed relationship and ready to have kids? If the answer is no, it’s time to think of the “A” word. Not the one that kills the kid, but the one that gives the kid a chance in life by giving it to two parents who will love and provide for them.

If your parents are forcing you out because you are pregnant, then adoption will probably be the best option for you. LOTS of parents looking for children to adopt will help you with a place to live and getting the care their future child will need.

Think about running away AFTER the kid has a new home. SERIOUSLY consider getting on birth control that will last several years. Studies have shown that girls or women who give a child up for adoption or abort a child will get pregnant again within a year. Why? Guilt? Stupidity? Not learning their lesson, who knows. When you are pregnant, your life is no longer about you.

When I was in 7th grade, one of my friends got pregnant. She did drugs, starved herself, everything she could to lose the baby. Really, how sad. When the baby was born, she would blow pot smoke in his face to see how funny he looked stoned. I’m not sure where she is, but that kid could easily be any of the brainless kids I’ve had in my classes. What person doesn’t want their kids to succeed? Hum, maybe you live with one. That doesn’t mean you have to be one.

There are many resources out there for you if you are pregnant. My personal favorite is www.itsaboutlove.org.